Problems with Online Dating
Ever been so lonely to the point that you turned to sites like match.com or chemistry.com or one of hundreds of other online dating sites? Ever gotten so lonely that you’ve actually paid for a subscription to that site to see if you will ever find someone or hopes that someone messages you back? There’s something wrong with this picture. and I’m going to point it out since I’ve been bored to death and actually tried a few of this sites. Yes, I’ve actually bought a subscription go match.com at one point because 1) I had the money at the time and 2) I was bored and wanted to see if it’s all what it’s cracked up to be. And yes, I actually had a subscription to chemistry.com at one point as well but it was my dad that bought it and why that site because my sister suggested it but again was mainly because I was bored and had nothing better to do. And I also got a subscription to doulike.com recently as well because, hey, had the money at the time (can very easily make all my payments with no issue with that little money I spend on this subscription) and because I’m bored.
So here’s the overall low down on these kind of sites. A lot of these type of sites works by letting you sign up for free and have your profile out there and a lot of the times lets you also do a search or “match search” for people and might even go as far as allowing you to view there profile or a few of your “match” photos. Here’s the primary catch, if you want to try to send a “match” a message (or email if you will) you have to have a subscription at that point. And believe me, a subscription does not come cheap (anywhere from $20 a month to $50 a month and maybe more depending on if you do it for month to month or every 3 months and what not).
Hell, I remember seeing one online dating site (forgot which one) where girls are allowed to register and message guys without having to pay a dime but all the guys had to pay to message a lady back so there’s nothing really fair there when it comes to online dating it seems.
It’s not just a subscription is a problem, there’s also the problem that since it’s all online, you can very easily message someone and not get a responds back at all and it could be one of two reasons (well… three reasons if you really want to think about it). 1) He or she does not have a subscription and thus unable to either view your message and/or responds to it (more common when someone registers just to check out to see if there’s anyone worth there wild to even get a subscription for or not); 2) He or she is not interested in you and so instead of responding back with “thanks but no thanks” they just ignore your message completely instead; and if you really want to push it, 3) they already gotten someone and don’t want to message you back about it and/or forgot to remove there profile but did or did not cancel there own subscription. The reason why I’m really doubting number 3 is because it just seems very unlikely that could be the reason. Most people who found themselves a date would either hide there profile or get it removed completely. I can believe number 1 and 2 more then number 3.
So what does this all mean? I means this. Girls has the most advantage with this site then guys do. Even more so if you’re between 18 and 30 (or so) since they’re still young that most girls will be looking for that bad boy style look who has a hot rod car, etc. Pretty much what I’m getting at is that most girls are going after those “hot” guys since that’s all they really care about is looks. They don’t care if the guy is a dead beat as long as he looks good and/or get money from there mommy and daddy. There are a few girls who might look at your profile but if there’s any hint of not being “hip” they’ll move on, assuming you’re either good looking or don’t have a profile picture up and the girl so happens to not really care too much about that.
A good example is if you write down you’re good with computers or your job involves being around computers a good majority of the time, you’d think a girl will come flying at you with open arms since, hey, they’ll have a boyfriend who can fix there computer when it crashes for free! Sadly it doesn’t work that way, you’d have a much better luck by lying through your teeth (or keys, rather) by saying you own an island with a nice house boat and private jet, and, I think you got my point already.
So is it worth going through the online dating scheme? If you’re a female, go for it, I’m sure you can find someone in a matter of minutes, I know my sister did. If you’re a guy, ehh…. maybe days or weeks before you get a responds unless you’re some sexy beast that girls can’t keep there hands off of ya.
In all honestly, though, it’s probably be better off just going to a bar or something, drink some liquid courage, and start asking random girls out at the bar then going through the online dating mess if you’re a guy because, like I said, it’s more geared girls then it is towards guys (even more so if you’re an average Joe like I am).
And I probably have more to say on this matter later but for now, I’m off to sleep, got work tonight.